Do you seem to drive away any (and all) guys you’re interested in? Do men seem to finally avoid you and literally make intense efforts to get you to leave? Are you the woman men LITERALLY fear?
As long as you feel broken and torn, because so many guys have rejected you; I bet you’ve also sat around wondering what’s wrong with you and WHY you’re SO unattractive to men. I don’t blame you and, in fact, it’s the RIGHT thing to ask why men run away. You see, men just REACT to you.
What this means is that they are just giving a REACTION to something that you yourself have initially done. This means that at some point you are making a big mistake and giving them a reason to feel like they need to run. BUT, the best part of all, is the fact that you are willing to learn where you are going wrong, which means that you can change everything… you can start to see more of what men want and you can finally succeed in attracting men!
I won’t lie though, the reasons men run away are very brutal and in your face; but if you can honestly sit with yourself and learn from these mistakes, you’ll never have to be the one the guys run from again. This is where you really need to be completely honest and open with yourself to make sure you’re not making any of these 5 Mistakes That Make Men Cut Up and Leave:
1. You take it before you know what you’re getting – You make it too obvious that you’re looking for a committed relationship, but the problem is that you JUST met the guy. He sees this and realizes that you take things before you know what they really are; which means you’re too easy…and don’t maintain enough boundaries or self-respect for him to be upset.
2. You need him to take care of you – You wait for a call, you expect commitment, you expect so many things, that when it doesn’t happen you get very excited and disappointed. Men DO NOT want to have to constantly spoon-feed you, or do everything for you, because otherwise you are an emotional wreck. Get up on your own two feet and learn to be comfortable with yourself and with the idea of giving yourself some of the things you ask him to give you.
3. There is nothing for you – It’s about him, and your life revolves around him. This means that you have no life of your own, and everything about you actually depends entirely on him. If your life IS him, and your goals ARE him, and everything about YOU is HIM… then there is nothing for you. Be his OWN person, with separate dreams, goals, and interests… so he has something to be interested in.
4. You bend too easily – You are afraid to set limits or say no, because you are afraid that he will leave if you do. This makes you too easy and means that you will break your own moral codes and disrespect yourself if you thought that would keep the guy around. Men can pick up on this, and then feel that you don’t hold up for yourself in an esteemed way, and think that if you fall for them so easily, where else will you falter as well? It makes you suspicious and just makes it impossible for a man to respect you.
5. You don’t believe in yourself – You seek his approval in every whim, to feel that you are worth it. You need me to congratulate you and justify your purpose. You need it to make yourself feel valued, desired, and useful. Your lack of self-esteem is so evident that it exhausts him… Because nothing he says will be enough. You will always need more guarantees, more approval; because you just don’t believe in yourself. He won’t be able to believe in you either, when you’re not working to trust yourself and accept yourself, like you expect him to.