If it was brought up to someone that the way they experience life is largely the result of what they believe, they might completely agree with this. This could be something that, to one degree or another, you have been aware of for quite some time.
On the other hand, they might end up dismissing what has been said and questioning how their life has anything to do with what they believe. As far as they are concerned, what happens ‘out there’ and what they experience may have very little to do with them.
a passive observer
So one will simply observe what is going on around them and what is happening in their life will be for the most part out of their control. If asked to explain why they experience things, they might say that it is usually the result of “good luck” and “bad luck”, or “good karma” or “bad karma”.
Therefore, someone or something ‘out there’ will play an important role in what happens or doesn’t happen to them. Also, unconsciously, if not consciously, they may believe that if they behave in a certain way, “good” things will happen to them.
random world
If they work for someone who mistreats them, then they are unlucky, but if they win money in the lottery, then they are lucky. Or, if they are not very successful, they will be unlucky, but if they have good friends, they will be lucky.
In each of these examples, as well as others, one will not have much effect on what is happening. At the same time, there could be certain areas of your life that you believe are under your control, or at least, over which you have more control.
a natural result
So if you don’t experience much good luck, it won’t be a surprise if you have what is often described as a “victim mentality.” But, if bad things happen to them and there is nothing they can do, how else would they be?
To expect otherwise would be to expect night not to follow day; it would be totally irrational. To make matters worse, both the people in your life and the society in which you live could also validate your view of yourself as a victim.
a reward
Not having the ability to change your life directly, you will need to rely on an indirect way to change your life. By being a victim, you can allow them to experience control.
Other people, feeling sorry for them, may end up giving them things and doing things for them that they themselves cannot do. Being powerless, however frustrating, will give them a sense of control.
Going deeper, much deeper
Now, while one sees oneself as nothing more than a passive observer of what is going on ‘out there’, what if this is nothing more than an illusion? What if this is the result of being too attached to your ego-mind and being caught up in what your eyes are telling you?
What if your beliefs define what you do and don’t experience? This would mean that one is not simply a passive observer of their reality; you are both the co-creator and the observer of your life.
Analogy
One way to look at it would be to imagine that you made the decision to visit a messy, hostile, and even dangerous town. However, even though they made this decision, they forget about this decision once they were there.
Consequently, even though they chose to have this experience, it was as if what was happening had nothing to do with them and as if they were being punished for no reason. Naturally, during their time there, they would feel angry, frustrated, and powerless.
seems so real
The problem is that while what they see comes from them, or from their own consciousness to be more specific, their ego-mind and their eyes will make it extremely difficult for them to realize this. According to these parts of them, what they see will be separate from them and therefore will have nothing to do with them.
What will further strengthen this vision will be the thoughts and feelings that you experience. These two elements will be the ones that will give life to your experiences and make them ‘real’.
Going Back, Right Back
However, if one took a step back from what is happening ‘out there’ and went deeper into oneself, one would probably soon discover that their external reality reflects what they believe. Therefore, while it may have seemed like things were just happening to you, your mind, through the law of resonance, is actually attracting situations and circumstances that reflect what you believe.
Along with this, it will also cause them to interpret situations and circumstances in a way that will align with what they believe. What this means is that even if something doesn’t really reflect what they believe, they will see it in a way that does.
For example
Then one can have a ‘negative’ experience and this experience can result in them experiencing ‘negative’ feelings. At this point, they may feel angry and powerless and/or feel like a victim.
In reality, this experience will have been a manifestation of what you believe. Their mind would have co-created this experience and this would have allowed them to experience feelings that they already had within them.
Two levels
Consciously, one could say that this is not true, and on a conscious level, they could spend a good deal of time focusing on good things. However, on a deeper level, your unconscious mind will be searching for what you believe to be true.
This is why it will be normal for one to believe that what is happening has nothing to do with them. However, by pulling back the curtain, so to speak, and connecting with your other mind, you will be able to understand why you experience the same things over and over again.
shining light
When it comes to what one believes, it can relate to what they have learned from society, their time in school, what their parents passed down to them, and the meaning they gave to what happened during their early years. What can fuel many of your beliefs is unprocessed emotional pain.
Ergo, once you have begun to process the emotional pain that is within your body, you may find that many of your beliefs begin to fade. Furthermore, simply bringing a belief into the light of awareness can cause it to be seen for what it is: a belief and not the truth.
Awareness
If you can relate to this and are ready to change your life, you may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.