definition of self esteem

To conquer low self esteem we must first know what ‘self esteem’ is or at least our own definition of it. Below are the definitions of common people and as you will see, they vary from person to person; choose a definition of self-esteem that is closest to your own description.

– Self-esteem is when I feel good about myself.

– Live according to my own values, beliefs and convictions.

Self-esteem is the absence of self-hatred.

– Be sure that I can achieve anything I set my mind to.

– A state of total and absolute freedom. Freedom to choose to be myself.

– When I love and accept myself deeply and completely.

Now let’s look at an opposite for each definition of self-esteem in the list above and from there we can begin to see what low self-esteem is.

– Self-esteem is when I feel bad about myself.

– Living according to the values, beliefs and convictions of another person.

Self-esteem is the presence of self-contempt.

– There is no confidence in achieving anything.

– A state of total and utter restriction. Compliance with all others

– I did not like

If you or someone you know has low self esteem, it will be based on one of the above or similar, but when you boil it down to the nitty-gritty, low self esteem basically means ‘a low opinion of oneself’. You feel guilt in yourself and your ability to cope with your life experience and this can often be masked by aggressive and/or boastful behaviour.

Other symptoms include; habitual putting others down, fear of change, sensitivity to criticism, criticism of others, criticism of oneself, perfectionism, a constant need to prove oneself or impress others, etc. etc there are many symptoms and people will hide behind the bravado while inside they feel in a state of insecurity and panic.

They will often feel that they are the victim and that it is someone else’s fault or they will blame the circumstances or the environment in which they live or what they want but cannot have as the reason why they feel so depressed. It’s never their fault or it’s always their fault and they spend most of their time stuck in a cycle of hate and self-pity, whether it’s obvious to others or not.

As you can see, the total focus when you are in a state of low self-esteem is what is wrong or what is to blame for the unhappiness or circumstances that you are experiencing, and from that, you are doing more than what you are doing. which is being focused. It is becoming a habit and a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Overcoming low self-esteem and breaking the habit involves changing your approach. It’s not going to happen overnight. Habits take a long time to form and you need to retrain your mind to focus on what is good and right in your life instead of what is wrong. Anytime you feel like you’re moving into a negative state, focus on the good things you have in your life. It can be as simple as the sun on your back on a summer day, the affection of a pet or the smell of roses in spring.

Life could never be so miserable that joy is totally devoid of it; Get in the habit of seeing the good in yourself and others. Get in the habit of seeing what is positive in your life and instead of feeling lack and limitation. Feel the joy of being thankful and thankful even if what you are experiencing is ‘real’. Even if you are experiencing great difficulties, take joy in the fact that this is temporary and that your new approach is bringing you a much better life.

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