Several news articles have been published online and a book or two on “everyday sex” have been published. In one experiment, a couple decided to have sex every day for a year and document their experience. Other couples have also tried similar experiments in the hopes that it will solidify their marriage.
Well, what about everyday sex for a Christian marriage?
There are two different sides to this answer.
- No, this is not a healthy aspect of Christian intimacy and should not be practiced. Now this view compares everyday sex with the previous examples regarding the couple who wrote the book and other couples who reported trying it. The reasons Christians should avoid this is because it involves “forced intimacy.” In other words, there are many couples who simply are not physically or mentally comfortable with sexual intimacy every day. Well, in keeping with the trend of everyday intimacy, couples should force themselves to have sex with each other. Obviously, it can be seen that this is not a Christian value and should be avoided.
- Yes, having sex every day can be very healthy for a married Christian couple. This point of view can also be valid in the following context. Let’s say both husband and wife are very sexually active. You both want to practice this wonderful gift as often as possible. Daily sex could work very well for this type of married Christian couple. It wouldn’t be a burden and it would only increase your intimacy and ultimately your marriage. Sexually active Christians often find it difficult to have sex as often as they want. What will happen is that once they get out of the rhythm when it comes to practicing intimacy, it will be difficult for them to get back into it, so much so that some couples get frustrated and end up not having sex at all. This happens more times than you would think, and many times it happens with couples who have had a pleasant sex life early in their marriage. So for these people, daily intimacy could be the solution to staying in that intimate rhythm they need to be in to help maintain a healthy and intimate marriage.
Remember that sex is a celebration and really should be practiced as often as possible, depending on the comfort level of each married individual. Sometimes that can mean just once a month. Other times that could well mean every day. It all depends on the couple.