While we have strong opinions about the people we interact with at home or at work, you may be surprised to learn that people find it quite difficult to describe themselves. Describing yourself on paper is especially important when it comes to creating your online dating profile or profiles on matchmaking sites.
Not only are you expected to describe yourself, but to do so in such a way as to attract the right people to show interest or respond positively when you reach the people you are interested in.
These are some of the 4 common mistakes to avoid when describing yourself.
1. Play your own trumpet
The purpose of your online profile is to describe your personality, lifestyle, interests, and expectations. The idea is to sound like a real human being with an emphasis on sounding genuine. Avoid filling your profile with adjectives or try to project an exaggerated view of who you are. Nobody likes people who take themselves too seriously. Even if you really are God’s gift to humanity, project some humility when you write about yourself.
2. Hitting yourself
While humility is always appreciated, you don’t need to berate yourself in an attempt to sound genuine. Mentioning every little physical flaw, personality quirks, family problems (even if it’s a passing reference), fears or frustrations, past failures, and failed relationships should definitely be avoided. There is no point rejecting people by sharing an unequal view of all the things that did not go well in your life.
3. Focusing too much on your material possessions
While the world around you is materialistic and money really attracts people, it restrains your urge to show off your wealth. Having a profile picture with your fancy supercar in the background or on your Million Dollar yacht sends all the wrong signals and will likely attract people who may be more interested in your wealth. If you are rich, you do not need to mention it through your profile photo or in your profile article. You always have the option to select people based on the criteria offered by the matchmaking or dating site you may be using if you have a special interest in dating or marrying people of similar social status.
4. Not paying attention to spelling and grammar.
When writing about yourself, pay attention to spelling and grammar. Having a consistent profile, well written and free from spelling and grammar errors is a fundamental requirement to create a good first impression. That’s not all, filling your profile description with jargon, acronyms, truncated words will convey to people that you are not a serious part worth responding to.
Start taking your online profile seriously and invest the time and effort to avoid these common mistakes if you really want to create an attractive online dating or marriage profile.