Relationships are great until one decides to leave the other for some valid (or invalid) reason. Girls, being more sensitive and emotional than guys, often take the breakup hit pretty hard, unless they’re the one who initiated the breakup. But of course girls are also more optimistic than men.
Do your best not to call him
Don’t appear desperate by calling him every hour. You won’t get it back by scaring it. Stalker tendencies sometimes drive men further away from their ex-girlfriends. If he calls, he calls. It may take some time, but that’s why patience is a virtue.
Learn to compromise so that the new relationship works
Try to talk about the problems of your past relationship. Were there recurring problems? Is it because you are quite selfish and don’t want your man to go out with his friends? Is it always your way or the highway?
Because if he is, maybe that’s one of the reasons he broke up. If you and your man are ready to have a heart-to-heart about trying to fix the relationship, then go ahead and be prepared to compromise.
Never beg or plead please
Begging and pleading is so old fashioned. Carrie Bradshaw will sell all her Manolo Blahniks of hers first before begging a boy to take her back. Or did she do it once? Anyway, please take me back conversations are embarrassing and not worth mush. It will only make you look pitiful to your ex.
give yourself time
Now that you’re not in a relationship, you have all the time to go to the salon to get your hair done. Search your bookshelves for titles you haven’t read yet. Do some volunteer work. Anything to distract you from the breakup.
Reassess your value in the relationship
Not being part of the relationship allows you to see it from a stranger’s point of view. What were your strongest points, your weakest? What role did you usually play, the boss, the superior or more dominant, or the recipient of all love and care?
Reassessing your role in the relationship will give you the clout you need when you talk about it with your former partner.
Make your friends stay out of this situation.
Some men are very private and prefer to keep their personal matters between themselves and their partner. Even if you’re not together anymore, don’t talk about your problems and your plans to get him back with your friends. While friends can help you work things out, he may be more appreciative if you stop dating your friends.
New girlfriend, no problem!
Sure, the news of a new girlfriend will blow your mind, no matter how many times you say that everything is fine. But fear not. If her relationship came right after yours without any time lapse, chances are she is just a rebound girl, someone who can keep him company while he takes care of her broken heart.