Obviously, the female orgasm is incredibly rare. If it were not, we would not have all the confusion about how it is achieved. So we are never going to have millions of women agree on how to orgasm. The best we can hope for is a scientific justification for female orgasm techniques. A woman masturbates emulating the male pushing role. The orgasm arises from stimulating the anatomy that men and women have in common, the phallus.
A woman mentally aligns herself with the penetrator and stimulates her phallus. What we commonly call the clitoris is, in fact, just the glans. Unlike the penis, the clitoris is primarily an internal organ. The clitoris is called the phallus because of the anatomical parallel to the penis. But, since only the glans protrudes from the body, the clitoris is not a true phallus.
Receptive women use the fingers of both hands to massage the blood flow within the internal organ of the clitoris. The clitoris is stimulated in the same way that a man masturbates his penis. Glans stimulation is always done through the layer of skin over the glans. As for men, most of the stimulation of female masturbation is directed towards the corpora cavernosa within the body (or the axis of the clitoris). The only way a woman can massage the accumulated blood flow (which results from psychological arousal) is by pressing down on both sides of the vaginal opening.
The initial catalyst for masturbation is the thought that appears in a woman’s mind that orgasm might be possible. There is a mandatory period of time in advance when a woman has to decide whether she can generate enough arousal for orgasm. This is the most critical phase and often the longest. She runs through possible fantasies to see if her mind responds. At first, it may be based on material from erotic literature. Over time, these scenarios are reused over and over again by relying on memory. She only uses a handful of scenarios. She focuses on the aspects of sex that she knows from past experiences that are likely to excite her enough to orgasm.
One of the first signs of female arousal is a very mild genital response to a woman’s mind that responds positively to a sexual scenario. When massaged on the glans, a receptive woman feels a slight tingling. She is aware of a sensation of arousal as her genitals become tumescent and her heart rate or respiration increases. If a woman does not respond, then the fantasies that would normally arouse her seem unappealing. She just gave up on the idea. Even after you have assumed your position, you may conclude that you are not aroused enough to have an orgasm. There may be a slight feeling of disappointment, but there is no sexual frustration. A woman has no sex drive, so her arousal is not accompanied by any sense of urgency. Female arousal is easily dissipated by real-world interruptions.
While a woman waits for the inspiration of the fantasy to take effect, she places her hands in position on her vulva. She lies on her front somewhere comfortable like a bed, with the fingers of one hand on her vulva. She massages the glans of her clitoris while reading. During this time, he keeps his fingers in position on the top of the glans (protected by the surrounding skin) and moves his hips from side to side or in a circular motion while concentrating on his fantasy. A woman holds her breath while concentrating, followed by jerky, involuntary breathing. If someone is sleeping nearby, try to avoid panting and teasing them.
A woman stimulates herself much less aggressively than the action that men use to masturbate. A man masturbates with quick, vigorous movements, but a woman uses a slower rhythmic massaging movement. The first time she discovers orgasm, a woman can use her fingers to massage her vulva through her panties. However, move quickly to use the most tactile stimulation of your fingers directly on the skin. Initially, a receptive woman focuses her stimulation on the glans of the clitoris. Use the fingers of both hands to apply pressure through the skin. Press the skin over (the hood) and around the glans (the lips) towards the perineum.
As her sexual tension increases, a woman recognizes the signs that orgasm is near. Change the focus of your stimulation. She presses more firmly on the spongy tissue that surrounds the lips (immediately below the pubic bone) essentially kneading the internal organ of the clitoris. This second stage of stimulation also involves putting firm and regular pressure on the internal organ by squeezing the buttocks. She uses a compression technique, which pushes the pelvis forward. The clitoral organ is squeezed between your fingers in front (external) and your pelvic muscles behind (internal).
While masturbating, a woman’s focus is on the fantasy in her head. Provides stimulation at crucial moments of mental excitement. A woman equates her own tumescence with the imagined arousal a man feels when his sexual arousal culminates in the urge to ejaculate. His ejaculation equals the pleasure she gets from her own orgasm. Use both hands to push down firmly and close your eyes while having an orgasm. Once her mind has tuned into a fantasy, a woman can have an orgasm in a minute or two.
… a high percentage of all women who masturbate use techniques that involve some form of rhythmic stimulation of the clitoris, usually with one finger or multiple fingers or the whole hand. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)