My top tips on what you should do!
1.) Start putting yourself first, get out of your own way, put down the laundry basket, and head straight for the mirror! Look into your eyes and ask yourself “Am I doing my best?” But because?” Are you waiting for someone to give you permission to comb your hair or paint your toes? Do you really think you don’t have TIME to wear something else? A simple sundress and toe-painted flip-flops can go a long way, and it’s as easy as throwing on a sweatshirt.
2.) Use EVERY excuse in the book to be SEXY. Yes you can be sexy in the carpool lane, yes you can be sexy at your kids’ t-ball game. Here’s a quick secret that will change mom’s mindset in no time. When you’re out in public, I want you to think to yourself (no need to say it out loud;) “I’m sexy and I know you want me, I might just drive you crazy!” Feel free to make eye contact if you want, be strong and confident. This is so much FUN and it’s AMAZING to see heads turn as you meditate on your secret mantra.
3.) Give up resentment. It’s old and it doesn’t work. I don’t care that you’re home with the kids and your husband is working lalala. Get over it and DO something about it. The first thing that will kill any chance of you becoming a hot mom is resentment (not to mention your marriage).
4.) Start surprising your spouse and yourself! One of the secrets that my husband and I have when it comes to our marriage is that we do nice things for each other, with NO strings attached! For example, this week has been a bit stressful for us and on Monday night, my husband was EXHAUSTED! I told her to go to bed early and that I would take care of the children and put them to bed. Not because poor me mommy resented and had an advantage over him, but because I know adding to that bucket will ONLY benefit our relationship and our family. I did it because I wanted to make him feel better, remember how you got married because you love each other? And would you believe it, I woke up today with a sore throat? My husband picked up the kids from school, he took care of dinner, and I spent the whole night in bed! It is a beautiful thing when you remember that you are here to help and not to HURT others! This basic principle will make you a sexy mom by default, because you are in a safe and secure relationship with yourself and your spouse.
5.) Wear black lace panties when that time of month rolls around! Yes, that is correct! No more underwear from this period, I’m sick of hearing it! Black is crucial during this time and it makes it fit. He’ll cover up any leaks (sorry for the image), but still allow you to feel sexy. Why, during the time of the month when you feel your most bloated and unattractive, would you wear a pair of panties that make you feel worse? Let’s see… I’m fat and miserable, so I guess it’s time for big, tight white panties that hug my butt and look like a straitjacket. No, throw them away, black lace panties are your new best friend.
6.) Spend quality time with your children. As moms, we run and feel that we must be everything to everyone. We have to pick up, drop off, make dinner, read stories, bathe… and the list goes on, right? Have you ever asked your children WHAT they like to do with you? The answer may surprise you! When I ask my kids this question, their response is “Mommy, we love it when you play with us!” Do you hear that? NOT the movies, Disneyland, bowling, or toy shopping… Listen to your kids and spend the kind of time THEY want, that’s what makes it quality, not what you believe they want! That’s one sexy chic mom.
7.) Slow down. Turn off autopilot and ask yourself “Why did I become a mother?” Spend five minutes non-stop journaling and answer this question. Then check your answer. Are you participating in Maternity the way you wanted to? Are you fulfilling your own Do you dream of being a mom? Or are you responding to society’s expectations of what a mother should be? A sexy mom remembers WHY and then acknowledges it, making sure she is fully aware of her role.
8.) OK, this is fun. Buy a black wrap dress, a casual one; This is one of my favorites. I want you to pick an occasion where you would normally wear something “scruffy”, perhaps to your son’s t-ball set, for example. I want you to wear your little black wrap dress, you can make it casual with a pair of flip flops. Put your hair up in a ponytail or bun (takes two seconds, for God’s sake) and voila! I want you to see how EASY it can be to be sexy and chic. Now, if you want to get really crazy, incorporate number 2 on this list and see what happens to your confidence. I do this all the time, okay now I’m spilling all my little secrets! 🙂
Enjoy! Of course, I’d love to hear your stories as you incorporate these tips.
With love and beauty always,