The dating game is like a game of chess…make your move
A woman plays tough because she wants to present herself as a challenge… someone who is almost unattainable. Women believe that this is the best way to attract the man of their dreams. However, there are times when a girl doesn’t play tough; she’s actually telling a man, “I’m sorry, but no thanks.” Many men get frustrated guessing whether or not a woman really likes them, so they just assume every woman on earth is playing tough. This is simply not the case. You must learn to know if she is being tough or not, or you will set yourself up for a big disappointment.
Why do women always seem to play hard to get?
You’ve probably heard many women say that they actually hate men (for one reason or another). Women don’t trust us, so they play hardball to protect themselves from being used and hurt. Also, they don’t want to be seen as an easy score, so they’re content to make men chase them for a while… making them “win it,” so to speak. Before she decides to go one step further, she wants to be sure that the guy really likes her and isn’t just out for some cheap thrills. Playing hard to get is kind of like the selection process.
The fact is that playing hard to get really works for most women. Not to mention the fact that males love to hunt “more desirable and hard to come by” prey that seem out of their reach most of the time. The unfortunate thing for us men is that sometimes we can’t tell the difference between a woman playing hard to get and a woman who really wants nothing to do with us.
“So… is he playing hard to get or not?”
The last thing you want to do is chase after a girl who wants nothing to do with you. So how can you tell if she really likes you? One of the first things she should do is watch her body language. No matter what she says, her body never lies…especially her eyes. That’s why it’s important that you know how to read and interpret her many body languages.
Doesn’t return your phone calls
Ok, so you did the impossible and got his number. That’s it, right? No. This is just the beginning. Women have only begun to play the game at this stage. So when you call and get their answering machine/voicemail, don’t blame yourself just yet. What you want to do is leave her a message reminding her where you put her and leave your phone number too, that’s all. If she likes you, she’ll definitely get back to you as soon as she thinks the right amount of time has passed (remember if she’s playing hard to get, she won’t call you right back). That said, if you call her a few times and leave your number, give her some time to call you back. However, if you don’t hear from her after a week, move on.
Remember, when calling, you can’t seem desperate and call her 5-10 times a day hoping to get through to her. When you act desperate, women will want to stay away from you. While women love attention, they hate guys who seem like obsessive jerks.
Another thing to remember when leaving a message is to never act like she’s too good for you. If she does, she may start to believe it and never call you back.
He should also be seen as an extremely busy person, someone who also has a lot going on in his life and won’t wait forever for a woman to call him back. She knows that if she doesn’t call you soon, you’ll most likely move on faster than the overly obsessed, lifeless guy. Knowing this, she won’t play tough for long… he’s too risky, unless of course he doesn’t really like you.
Sorry I can’t hang out; i will be too busy
If you get your number and answer when you call, you should pay attention to what you say. If she responds to your proposals (dates) with “sorry, I’m going to be busy” repeatedly, then you can bet you will never be with that girl. She’s not playing hard to get in this particular scenario. If a woman can’t even find time for a date, then she’s not interested. She maybe she gave you her number to be nice and didn’t want to embarrass you by rejecting you.
On the other hand, if you initially say no and then say things like “I may be busy this week, but why don’t you call me back? Or better yet… I can call you to let you know when I have freed up some time on my agenda. I’m sure we can work something out.” This sounds more like a woman playing tough. She is just turning you around.
Because women are usually the receivers of the vans, it’s easier for them to sit back and let the men chase them. In reality, women have become incredibly competent when it comes to playing tough. Even if you read the situation perfectly and are 99.99% sure that she is interested in you, she can still take you down like a duck hunter. Playing hardball can confuse even the most seasoned veteran. Knowing this, it’s important that you find ways to tell if she’s playing hard to get or not.
There are literally hundreds of examples that I can give you. The bottom line is this… the dating game is constantly changing and if you don’t keep up, you will be left behind. The best advice I have for you is to try to read his body language so you know if he’s playing hard to get or if he’s really rejecting you.