Sadly, it’s not just in the movies where hilarious misunderstandings occur (for everyone but those involved) that result in your girlfriend attacking you and saying she’ll never speak to you again, wishing she never met you, or hoping you’d die, etc. . It’s frustrating when you know you haven’t done anything wrong and you know that if she understood her situation she would be okay with her, maybe even like you more. With that in mind, this article gives you some advice on what you can do to reconcile the situation and get your girlfriend back.
1. Understand why she is so upset.
Instead of starting by claiming your own innocence, take a moment to see things from their point of view. Let’s say she caught you hugging her naked sister. Now you know her sister just got out of the shower, she slipped and hit her head on the floor and is currently delusional. It’s quite logical to you that you should be helping this poor girl, but it seems to your girlfriend that you’re having a good time with her sister.
2. See if she’s willing to let you explain.
If you can explain yourself then this is the best way to go, however it might not be an option. If she leaves the moment you enter a room and burns a letter the moment you give it to her, then your explanation will not be accepted. Her first job is to try to keep things simple and clear. But if she’s not open to your explanation, then you shouldn’t push her (yet!). Remember the first step: she is angry and confused right now.
3. Get someone she trusts to explain it to her.
If she is not willing to hear things from you, then you need to ask for help. A breakup is a difficult time for everyone, and especially when mutual friends are involved. If things are allowed to escalate too much, it will quickly become a situation where friends have to choose sides. And this sucks. Find someone who is a mutual friend and explain the exact circumstances. Let them know that he is still in love with her ex and that he would really like to talk to her about making things right. Then give them the space to do it. The right time may not come right away, and this friend is doing you a huge favor here. You should also not be offended if they say they are not ready to do it. Going to bat for you could be seen as choosing your side in the conflict, and that could also cost them a friend.
4. Make yourself available to her.
One thing to remember when you want to get your girlfriend back. Make it easy for her to contact you, but don’t pressure her to do so. Calling her every night she’s not going to help. If she has done all of the above, she has shown you that she is sorry and in some way she has conveyed to you the correct version of events. If he wants to get back, he will, and if he doesn’t, he expects an apology from her for having misunderstood the situation that led to her breakup. Just let her know how happy she is to have her back and how much you will enjoy being together from now on.
Above all, you need to understand that while misunderstandings are frustrating, they do happen and we must treat them with great care. You can’t be confrontational about it, you want your girlfriend to come back to you willingly and happily, not get dragged or blamed back. Follow the tips above and you should be fine.