I believe that all lesbians, being all women, want and need the same thing. Lesbians all over the world experience the same prejudice, oppression and discrimination. We all go through the same phase of self-discovery, acceptance and challenges when we introduce ourselves in society. It is never easy for any gay individual to live the lifestyle because there will always be someone who opposes it. Fortunately in the West, they have stricter laws that protect homosexuals from harassment and discrimination. Where as in Asia, well… let’s just say we’re not as lucky as our brothers and sisters to the west. Apart from our culture and tradition that favors men; we are also governed by religion.
The lesbian scene in Asia is pretty stereotyped. Most Asian lesbians practice butch and femme labeling but then again, there are some who don’t. So before you make her move with Lesley, make sure she’s interested in the traditional role play and, if so, which one she’s playing. As a precaution, keep in mind that male-to-male relationships in Asia are quite rare, if not taboo. Once your lesbian categories are established, you can now make a move.
To talk with her. This is also a good opportunity to find out if she is out. Most Asian families still don’t know anything about homosexuality and will still try to control her precious daughter even if she is already 25 years old. In Asia, it doesn’t matter how old you are. Parents will keep trying to control you to prevent you from bringing shame to the family and will try to lead you to a “normal” life. But then again, there are some Asian families who have embraced homosexuality as part of the norm and encourage their daughters to love freely.
So you’re going on a date. What is your first step? Take a bath and leave that body of yours absolutely clean. Hygiene is very important. Trim and shave that muffin because we’ll never know where this date will take you. We want you to smell nice and clean, so spraying on a lightly scented cologne will be great. Wear clean clothes and brush your teeth.
Choose a place where you both feel comfortable. If he’s still in the closet, ask him where he prefers to stay. We don’t want her mom to make a scene, so you better stay somewhere safe.
The thing about lesbians is that we treat each other pretty well. But don’t forget about chivalry, especially if you’re dating an Asian lesbian woman. Hold the door open for her; carry her bag, etc. – all the practice of the “gentleman”. It would be nice to bring her flowers on her first date, but if she hasn’t dated and is still living with her parents, maybe it’s not a good idea, maybe something small but special that she can take home and keep.
Women love to talk, so I’m pretty sure we won’t have any problems in the conversation area. The topics will be the standard “knowing you”. This is a good opportunity to throw in some compliments, as we tend to feel insecure about our race around strangers. But don’t overdo it because we might think you’re just experimenting on us.
Most out of the closet Asian lesbians are a bit lazy in terms of conservatism. We wouldn’t mind a little public display of affection (PDA). We’d hold hands and kiss you in public, but don’t expect a hot and steamy kiss – a short sweet French kiss is probably as far as you’re going to go UNLESS we’re in a lesbian crowd (ie exclusive parties of lesbians). ). So if you score at the end of the date, congratulations! You got yourself a Mulan girlfriend.
In a country where women are supposed to be virgins until their honeymoon, sex is a big deal for us. Not many Asian lesbians would have meaningless sex. Dildos and vibrators are a bit expensive in Asia and due to our conservative culture; There aren’t many places that sell them, so don’t be surprised if the idea of sex toys is taboo for Asian lesbians. We do everything the classic way, so wash yourself first.
Asians have close family ties, so if your Asian girlfriend is away or would challenge your family (and relatives) and introduce you to them, just relax. Be on your best behavior and be courteous to his family, even if they are not at their best. Don’t give them reasons not to like you. Bring something for the family when you come, preferably something edible like a nice cake or pastries that everyone can share while getting to know you.
Asian women, regardless of their sexual orientation, are faithful, caring and very caring. When you win the heart of an Asian woman, you also win a partner for life. She will take care of you and love you through thick and thin. You will always be her priority and will consider your improvement before anything else. So if you end up with an Asian woman as a life partner, take care of her and make her happy. She is worth every effort and emotional investment.